Rob Brezsny, the creator of the newspaper column-horoscope "Free Will Astrology" and author of the book Pronoia is the Antidote to Paranoia, posted this beautiful piece on his website.
When I think of the relationship I desire, I know that physicality is a big part of it. That includes sex, but is not limited to sexuality. Sex is an important part of it, but not nearly all of it.
As I wrote in my journal when I was describing the relationship I want, we will "know just how to touch each other to ground, calm, soothe, arouse. We are both physically expressive and that doesn't just mean 'sexual.' We need TOUCH and we touch each other just right."
As Brezsny quotes Thich Nhat Hahn:
"Hugging is a deep practice; you need to be totally present to do it correctly. When I drink a glass of water, I invest one hundred percent of myself in drinking it. You can train yourself to live every moment of your daily life like that.
"Before hugging, stand facing each other as you follow your breathing and establish your true presence. Then open your arms and hug your loved one. During the first in-breath and out-breath, become aware that you and your beloved are both alive; with the second in-breath and out-breath, think of where you will both be three hundred years from now; and with the third in-breath and out-breath, be aware of how precious it is that you are both still alive.
"When you hug this way, the other person becomes real and alive. You don't need to wait until one of you is ready to depart for a trip; you may hug right now and receive the warmth and stability of your friend in the present moment."